Why We’re Writing: My Marriage Needs Jesus
By Kaylee Freeman
“Hey honey, I’m home!” And the nightly routine begins. We both come in from work, I put dinner on to cook (sometimes that means shredded cheese in a tortilla), take the dog for a walk, and then change into my dreamy sweat pants. I get the tortillas out and place them on the table, and my husband and I get to catch up on our day that we spent apart. We talk about work, school, emotions, and a whole slew of other things; however, spiritual conversations can sometimes be hard for us to start.
We cannot simply make the spiritual component of our marriages like a chore to be done; we each have to be actively engaging in our walk with the Lord and, in turn, sharing that with one another. However, let me be the first to acknowledge that striking that balance can sometimes be very difficult. As I begin this journey of writing on our thinking and theology as Christian women, I have been encouraged, challenged and affirmed by how God is using this discipline to feed my marriage.
Writing Encourages Me to Slow Down and Think
My life, just like many others, operates at a quick pace. There is always more to be done, and if I’m not careful, I will begin to cut out my essential needs—like slowing down to think. There are truths that I need to ponder and writing encourages me to sit down, even when I can see the laundry and dishes that need to be done, and think. In these moments, God is gracious to bring to mind the areas I am struggling to love, serve and respect my husband. And when I do this thinking, my marriage bears fruit that it wouldn’t if I didn’t slow down and engage my God-created mind and heart.
Writing Helps Me Enjoy (and Even Desire) Spiritual Conversations
As I begin thinking about the next topic I get to write on, I have to go to the Scriptures and drink from the well of truth. It’s in these times of searching the very Word of God that a deep joy washes over me; I want to share these glorious truths with my husband—I want him to see the kindness God is showing me in revealing Himself (and His teachings) to me through the Bible. And, I want to hear what he is learning, too! So, when planning my writing and studying the Word, my heart is compelled to engage in spiritual conversations, making them a desire instead of a dread.
Writing Prompts Me to Process the Things of God
Often times I hear a “good truth,” and after a mere second or two, my mind and heart have moved on—there is only a slight appreciation for these words, not a helpful processing of them. When I write, I am pressed to not only hear truth, and love truth, but to process and understand it; without this essential step, I cannot communicate it in a clear and sound way to others around me. When I do process, oh the sweet treasures I uncover and am able to teach to myself and to those around me—how neat it is to share these treasures with the earthly one I treasure the most.
Writing Gives Me Greater Appreciation for the Pastorate
My husband has, since we met, expressed his desire to be a pastor—to shepherd a people by feeding them the truth of Jesus Christ and Him crucified. I’ve always admired his obedience in this calling, but have only recently come to a new, and greater, appreciation for this role he desires to serve in someday. As I study to grow in godliness, and then record it in blog posts for others to read, I’m beginning to understand the necessary preparation required to feed people sound truth. Through my writing experience, I now pray to joyfully embrace the hours of his life spent in study of the Bible for the sake of souls to be fed for, Lord-willing, years to come—that even includes the feeding of the two souls united together in marriage.
So, sweet friends, take time to sit down and write; take truths learned from these moments of sitting and pondering on the truth and use them in the relationships the Lord has entrusted to you.